Maid of Honor: Who Should Stand by Your Side on Your Big Day?

Congratulations on your engagement! As you begin planning your wedding, you'll need to choose your bridal party. One of the most important decisions you'll make is who to ask to be your Maid of Honor.

In the past, the term "Maid of Honor" was used to refer to an unmarried woman who was asked to be the bride's closest friend and confidante on her wedding day. The term "Matron of Honor" was used to refer to a married woman who was asked to fill the same role.

Today, however, the terms "Maid of Honor" and "Matron of Honor" are often used interchangeably. There is no longer a distinction made based on the bride's or the honor attendant's marital status.

So, how do you choose the right person to be your Maid of Honor? Here are a few things to consider:
  • Your relationship with the person. The Maid of Honor should be someone you are close to and who you trust. She should be someone you can rely on for support and advice throughout the wedding planning process.
  • The person's availability. The Maid of Honor will have a lot of responsibilities on your wedding day, so it's important to choose someone who will be available to help you with everything from planning your bachelorette party to walking you down the aisle.
  • The person's personality. The Maid of Honor should be someone who is organized, reliable, and fun to be around. She should be someone who can help you stay calm and relaxed on your wedding day.
Once you've chosen the right person to be your Maid of Honor, it's time to ask her! Here are a few tips for asking your Maid of Honor:
  • Do it in person. Asking your Maid of Honor in person is the most personal and thoughtful way to do it.
  • Make it special. Choose a time and place that is special to both of you.
  • Be specific. Tell your Maid of Honor why you're asking her and what her responsibilities will be.
  • Be prepared for her to say yes!
Asking your Maid of Honor to be in your wedding is a big honor. It's a way of showing her how much you care about her and how much you value her friendship. If she says yes, be sure to thank her for her willingness to stand by your side on your big day.

Here are some additional tips for brides on choosing and working with their Maid of Honor:
  • Be clear about your expectations. Let your Maid of Honor know what you expect of her in terms of responsibilities, such as planning the bachelorette party, helping you with wedding planning tasks, and being there for you on the day of the wedding.
  • Be flexible. Things don't always go according to plan, so be prepared to be flexible with your Maid of Honor. If she can't make it to a wedding planning meeting or bachelorette party, don't sweat it. Just be sure to communicate with her and let her know what's going on.
  • Show your appreciation. Thank your Maid of Honor for her support throughout the wedding planning process and on your wedding day. A small gift or a heartfelt thank-you note is a great way to show her how much you appreciate her.
Having a Maid of Honor is a wonderful way to celebrate your upcoming wedding with your closest friend. By following these tips, you can choose the right person to be your Maid of Honor and create a lasting bond with her.